In my book, this ranks right up their on our “Songs We Love to Hate” List.
Most people remember Rupert Holmes from his first Top Ten Hit, “”Escape (the Pina Colada Song”) from 1979. But what they often forget is that he followed it up with another big hit in 1980 called “Him.” It’s a smarmy ode to guys who have cheating girlfriends and think they can correct the situation by footing their foot down and demanding she choose between the two of you . . . like that ever works. Holmes also comes across as kind of a weasel in this music video: not sure if it’s just his performing style, the early 80s beard, or something else, but it’s creepy. And not in the good kind of creepy way.
Here’s more on “Him” from Wikipedia:
“Him” is a song written and recorded by British-born American singer and songwriter Rupert Holmes. It was released in January 1980 as the second single from the album, Partners in Crime. The song peaked at number six on the US Billboard Hot 100 on March 29, 1980 and remained at that position for two weeks. It was Holmes’ biggest Adult Contemporary hit, peaking at number four in both the United States and Canada. The song is sung from the point of view of a man who, when he discovers a pack of cigarettes that do not belong to him, suspects that the woman in his life is cheating on him. He has no idea who this other man may be, but he decides he must confront her; he expects her to say that the other man is “just a friend”, and plans to tell her bluntly, “It’s me or it’s him.”